I was advised NOT to be in a romantic relationship for at LEAST a year into recovery

Keywords: recovery , anorexia , bible , catholic , christianity , faith , family , fitness , god , healing , jesus , life , love , prayer

I finally understand now, why. Because I had to have a total and complete control over taking care of myself, my needs, my recovery, my self worth. I needed to be airtight, steady, totally and completely bulletproof to any lingering “ED issues” before I could invite someone else into my heart and relinquish control over many of those emotional areas.

https://beautybeyondbones.com/2021/03/25/making-room-in-my-heart-for-love

Something really special and amazing came out of this ugliness, and I’m so thankful for it

Keywords: domestic abuse , domestic violence , drug abuse , gaslighting , healing , love hate , love bombing , narcissism , recovery , relationship trauma , relationships , uncategorized , domestic violence , love hate , narcissistic abuse , relationship trauma

I had everything just how and where I wanted it. I had a fruitful and fulfilling career, nice ride, clean and beautifully decorated apartment in the heart of the Bay Area, lifelong and loyal friends, kids all doing well…. I felt at the top of my game. I decided out-of-nowhere, that I wanted to be married. So, since my longtime lover and I had to part ways, I thought it would be a good time for me to try to meet someone I could make a life with.

https://beautybeyondthebeast.com/2020/12/06/home-sweetest-home

Honor those relationships [with the people I cared most about] with respect, honesty, loyalty, trustworthiness

Keywords: recovery , anorexia , bible , catholic , christianity , eating disorder , faith , family , fitness , god , jesus , life , love , mental health

And admitting wrongs and making amends when we fall short and hurt those people in ways big or small, no matter how humbling that may be.

https://beautybeyondbones.com/2020/09/28/making-amends

It’s a red flag for me when someone is not inclined to maintain relationships with their former lovers

Keywords: philosophy , breaking up , ethical non monogamy , exes , friendship , polyamory , relationship anarchy , relationships , transition

It certainly doesn’t bode well for us, considering that most romantic/sexual relationships end.

https://polywithabigheart.com/2020/08/03/friends-with-my-exes

What if the goal is not to agree, but instead to see and be seen?

Keywords: covid 19 , archives , conflict , connection , conversation , couple , couples , featured , feelings , marriage , relationship , relationship tips , relationships , repair , understanding

What really helps us stay relationally connected is to experience being seen and heard, while also being accepted. This stimulates coherence in the limbic system – the emotional and attachment parts of our brains. In other words, when we’re aware that our inner reality is mirrored, known, and welcomed, it deepens our sense of belonging and security.

https://www.gottman.com/blog/what-to-do-when-you-disagree