I think we all need someone who really does see the best, and believes in us

Keywords: psychotherapy , attachment , clinically extremely vulnerable , covid vaccine , creativity , immune system , life-affirming , nature , photography

I saw myself as ignorant and inexperienced, and slow to put my words together in some meaningful way in my assignments. I was astounded every time my paper came back with top marks – surely they’ve marked the wrong paper by accident?

https://finalresolve.wordpress.com/2021/02/13/%e2%ac%9c%ef%b8%8fconnection-to-the-natural-world

Honor those relationships [with the people I cared most about] with respect, honesty, loyalty, trustworthiness

Keywords: recovery , anorexia , bible , catholic , christianity , eating disorder , faith , family , fitness , god , jesus , life , love , mental health

And admitting wrongs and making amends when we fall short and hurt those people in ways big or small, no matter how humbling that may be.

https://beautybeyondbones.com/2020/09/28/making-amends

Your intimate relationship with yourself is extremely important and should be nurtured prior to nurturing other relationships

Keywords: philosophy , friendships , intimacy , love , relationships

Intimacy offers a way for humans to connect authentically, and our authentic selves should not be limited to experiencing intimacy with a sole romantic partner. Expecting one relationship to fulfill every type of intimacy we crave is the emotional manifestation of putting all of our intimacy eggs in one basket. Developing intimacy in every relationship we have, beginning with ourselves, can fulfill our needs and desires in a way that doesn’t place responsibility for intimacy solely on our romantic partners.

https://bambooandbananas.org/a-lesson-on-intimacy

Say what you mean, and mean what you say.

Counter Culture

“In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’ When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong” – Matthew 5:36-37 (MSG)

My husband and I just recently got ourselves a pair of finger tattoos. When we showed them to people their reaction was, “whoa, that’s permanent”. They were shocked that we would mark our bodies with a choice that we can’t go back from. Which they are so totally right about, BUT…

The vows I spoke on my wedding day are just as permanent and binding as the ink on my finger. And that got me thinking about how little importance we actually put on the words we speak, not much less the vows we give.

I think we have forgotten the importance and weight of our words, and the power they hold. We throw around promises, vows…

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The Just-World Belief System

justice , psychology , social psychology , victim blaming , victims

Beyond Bounds

Do you believe that everything happens for a reason? Do you believe you reap what you sow? Or maybe, what goes around comes around? Such figures of speech, that suggest inevitable retaliation, are part of a just-world belief system.

Those who have been raised in a religious context, or are aware of it, understand that good people go to heaven and sinners go to hell. They are taught that we have consequences for our actions and thoughts. Similarly, we have been systematically conditioned in schools that we get punished when we misbehave and we get rewarded if we’re compliant. You grow up with the assumption or association that when you do good things, you get rewarded and when you do bad things, you get punished.

This might explain why some people accuse poor people of being lazy. They believe that disadvantaged groups are the way they are as a consequence…

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