Your intimate relationship with yourself is extremely important and should be nurtured prior to nurturing other relationships

Keywords: philosophy , friendships , intimacy , love , relationships

Intimacy offers a way for humans to connect authentically, and our authentic selves should not be limited to experiencing intimacy with a sole romantic partner. Expecting one relationship to fulfill every type of intimacy we crave is the emotional manifestation of putting all of our intimacy eggs in one basket. Developing intimacy in every relationship we have, beginning with ourselves, can fulfill our needs and desires in a way that doesn’t place responsibility for intimacy solely on our romantic partners.

https://bambooandbananas.org/a-lesson-on-intimacy

Say what you mean, and mean what you say.

michalgregory's avatarCounter Culture

“In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’ When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong” – Matthew 5:36-37 (MSG)

My husband and I just recently got ourselves a pair of finger tattoos. When we showed them to people their reaction was, “whoa, that’s permanent”. They were shocked that we would mark our bodies with a choice that we can’t go back from. Which they are so totally right about, BUT…

The vows I spoke on my wedding day are just as permanent and binding as the ink on my finger. And that got me thinking about how little importance we actually put on the words we speak, not much less the vows we give.

I think we have forgotten the importance and weight of our words, and the power they hold. We throw around promises, vows…

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The Just-World Belief System

justice , psychology , social psychology , victim blaming , victims

carlaakil's avatarBeyond Bounds

Do you believe that everything happens for a reason? Do you believe you reap what you sow? Or maybe, what goes around comes around? Such figures of speech, that suggest inevitable retaliation, are part of a just-world belief system.

Those who have been raised in a religious context, or are aware of it, understand that good people go to heaven and sinners go to hell. They are taught that we have consequences for our actions and thoughts. Similarly, we have been systematically conditioned in schools that we get punished when we misbehave and we get rewarded if we’re compliant. You grow up with the assumption or association that when you do good things, you get rewarded and when you do bad things, you get punished.

This might explain why some people accuse poor people of being lazy. They believe that disadvantaged groups are the way they are as a consequence…

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Break Up Frustrations: Words that no one wants to hear

how difficult it is for our generation to have emotionally vulnerable conversations, which has led to people using these generic responses. I think when you’re romantic and intimate with people you should have the respect to be vulnerable and have an open conversation with them. Therefore, I wanted to give my interpretation on what I have taken these responses to mean.

https://ethnicalconundrum.home.blog/2019/10/16/words-that-no-one-wants-to-hear

Dates and meaning

Ainsobriety's avatarainsobriety

I believe that much of our suffering results from the meaning we give things. Meaning that has no read basis. It is subjective. As things change, the meaning changes.

Today is my 20 year wedding anniversary. Of course, craig and I are well on the way to getting divorced and there will be no celebrating.

I wondered this morning if I should feel more sad. The past 6 months have been filled with a wide range of emotion from excruciating heartbreak to anger, disappointment to self confidence. I embrace the liberation of being in charge with no one else to accommodate.

It is earth shattering to have the person you love choose to betray you. It is a huge blow to one’s ego. It opens the door to questioning my worthiness and my value. Is something wrong with me that he would hurt me so badly?

Bu in the end…

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